Dear Heloise: I read a recent column of yours, and it reminded me of this story:

Two older women who were friends for a long time ran into each other at the grocery store. They hadn’t seen each other for several months. The first woman told her friend that she was so disappointed with her grandchildren. Every year for their birthdays and Christmas, she sends cards and checks but never hears back from them. Her friend said that she does exactly the same with cards and checks, but her grandchildren usually show up at her front door within a week to visit.

The first woman says, “You are so lucky.” Her friend says, “Luck has nothing to do with it. I just don’t sign the checks.” Best wishes! — Dr. Patrick Fell, via email

THIN BLANKET

DILEMMA

Dear Heloise: While in bed, sometimes a thin blanket is needed because of air conditioning or a chill in the room. After looking everywhere for a very lightweight 100% cotton blanket, I realized that a flannel top sheet would work perfectly. Buy a top sheet separately in some stores, just use one you already have, or get one from a thrift shop. — Jackie Quast, via email

TALKING TO

A TEENAGER

Dear Heloise: One of the best hints I’ve ever heard concerns how to deal with an emotional teenager. I’m quick to offer my opinion, or if I’m lacking one, my rote response is: “I don’t know what to tell you!” Both responses never went over well with my daughter.

Now I say, “Would you like me to listen? Or would you like my advice?” My daughter has expressed relief that she can ask me to simply listen to her and keep my opinions to myself! — Bobbie Carey, San Clemente, California